Pain is something your heart does not let go of and you have no control over. No matter how hard you want to turn your back and walk away you will find that you cannot. It is impossible to do this. Trying to walk away and think that what is healing is only causing more pain and sadness. Hurting someone is not going to help you feel better unless that is how you truly are and that is a really sad place to be in this world if you are. Allowing your heart to forgive and ease the pain is easy and I do not understand why this is hard for people to do. What makes anger so biter and hateful that we have to find the deepest part of ourselves and never allow that person into our place again. How can it be that bad? How can it be that sad to allow another person to feel so rejected by another for unknown reasons? What happened to honesty in this world? Are we so wrapped up in ourselves that we forgot that others have feelings and while we have them as well we should consider theirs as well when we go off and decide to vent at them. While we vent at them don't they deserve to know why we are targeting them? What did they do? People are so out for the moment of being n their own anger that they almost enjoy walking away from a friend or a loved one without a second glance. What causes someone to just do this? It would seem that somehow we would get over this space of needing to walk away and come back. Should we tell the person that we need space and that it is okay we will be back? Why are we so afraid of ourselves and what someone may feel if we are honest. It is okay to to be angry, mad, overwhelmed, rushed, tired and so many other emotions we are human after all. But why do we find some persons the target of our need to just leave and not come back.
Many people walk away from us in our lives, it happens all the time. We get used to it and go on never thinking about it. But when some come along that we make friends with or they become like family you want them around for a while. I think we should have contracts or something that outlines the relationship, friendship or whatever you want to call it. That way you always know where you stand with the person and there are no unanswered questioned left laying around ready to pounce. We know that if they are mad at us they will tell us so we can sort it out and move on. Isn't that what friends do stick by each other? Then we can also have on the contract that okay clause: the one that sez we are allowed to tell the other that we need some time apart as friends and not to worry all is okay just need to go off and refresh my thoughts. I will be okay, it is not you it really is just me and my oddities clause. That is the one that I think we would use quite a bit. We all need a break from each other we all have our moments of I need time alone so this is a great one to have. Then there would be no good contract without the no matter what section: the one where you tell them that no matter what you can handle anything they tell you and you will support them in all that they do.
Now the sad thing is we should all have friendships like this but we do not and I should not have to write this down and leave it here for all to read. But for you I will. And as a bonus It's not on my blog!!!! Most friendships take time to cultivate and grow while others are just meant to be. We all have them they just begin for no reason and continues on through life. We have friends that will stand by us and others that will run when they are done with us or we have fulfilled some need they had. The latter of the those I think is the saddest. Investing in a friendship takes times and effort and we all have personalities some a little more complex then others. But just know that each of your friends you chose for some reason whether they offered you a part of yourself that was missing or fit into your life when you needed them. They laugh at your jokes, support you when you need it, take care of you and offer you all kinds of opinions. So, remember treat your friends with care they all bring you a special part of themselves to the play group. They have hearts too and they don't read minds.
(this was originally not on my blog, in case you noticed the comment I made up there somewhere about this one not being here)
(this was originally not on my blog, in case you noticed the comment I made up there somewhere about this one not being here)
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